Horrible title for horrible film that unaccountably has some five-star-reviews on the DVD cover. Those critics should have their licences revoked. It’s a dire tale of three obnoxious, shouty, sweary, teenage girls smoking, boozing and clubbing their way through a beach holiday in Greece. The amateur, naturalistic filming makes it seem even worse. I tried to watch it, but after 15mins couldn’t stand their company any longer. The DVD describes the film as ‘vibrant’. ‘Sad’ would be nearer the mark.
What an awful film, it didn't start well and continued to be awful, I couldn't care less about the main characters, there was nothing to enjoy here. A complete waste of time.
Hated the film very much. No plot, just people jumping around, getting drunk, drugged up, having sex, etc. Perhaps I am the wrong age, and this film was cool. For me, it was tedious and boring, and I stopped watching it, because I was wasting my precious time. Did people of their age group actually like the film?
There’s an uncomfortable level of passivity to the topical and relatable drama of How To Have Sex. On one hand, it treats the premise of vacation-party rape with an earnest tone, hitting close to home how awkward and quietly discomforting it is to feel abused beyond your control amid a drunken celebration. On the other hand, the ultimate resolve feels less like a poignant picture on the topic and more like a Richard Linklater hang-out film, to the point it feels like rape is just a common occurrence you can’t do much about.
I don’t mean the Linklater relation so much as an insult, considering the atmosphere is the best part of this film. Teenage friends Tara (Mia McKenna-Bruce), Skye (Lara Peake), and Em (Enva Lewis) have taken off on a trip to Greece. It’s a time they used to forget about their troubles, considering ? of them don’t have a clue what they’ll do after graduating college. Tara, in particular, is a virgin who is possibly hoping to get lucky and place her bad grades behind her. There’s plenty of booze at the Malia resort on the island of Crete to forget all that. There’s enough booze to forget last night.
The partying continues for days, fulfilling the giddy desires of the teen girls wanting to have fun and hook up with some drinking dudes. With her friends encouraging her to have some fun and get laid, they push her towards Paddy. Tara, however, fancies Badger but soon realizes he might not be a good guy to have sex with, considering he engages in the resort’s highly sexual events (that being fellatio performed on him by multiple women on stage as the crowd cheers them on). Disillusioned about sex, Tara decides to accept Paddy’s sexual advances with a night of sex. Tara’s reluctant nature leads to Paddy raping her, and he becomes toxic around her, lingering like an abusive monster in the corner, unbeknownst to the partying friends.
My problem with the picture is not at all in how it frames the emotions and awkwardness of getting raped while partying with friends on vacation. There are a lot of close-ups and handheld camera moments that perfectly mimic the believable nature of cackling girls who delight in their hotel, drink all day, party all night, and scroll on their phones in the morning. The parties feel real and not like an adult’s staging of young people's antics, made clear by director Molly Manning Walker putting a lot of effort into her debut. The rape and fallout of sexual abuse behind closed doors is not treated with melodrama or theatrical terror but with a quiet sense of moody dread and embarrassment.
While the staging is great, the bigger question is what is all this staging for. There’s this lingering feeling that, with some toned-down elements, this could easily pass as an afterschool special about teenage rape. There must’ve been some fear of the film coming off this way, considering the ultimate resolve it reaches. There’s no preachy moment about how to report rape, nor is there some sobering statistic presented at the end to fulfill a public service on the subject matter. In its place, however, is an almost casual sensation that you should stick by your friends when you feel you can’t admit you were raped. A bittersweet realization washes over the film's final minutes, as though the friends are trying to place Greece behind them like a weekend in Las Vegas.
How To Have Sex mostly works at feeling like an honest portrait of teenage adolescence. Its biggest fault isn’t the writing or direction but the blunt honesty that courses through it with an uncomfortable mixing of emotions by the film’s end. It’s a cautionary tale, for sure, and one that feels genuine in its depictions. Where it goes from there, however, is a level of troubling ambiguity that feels strangely lacking, but that directionless nature is something many young people can relate to. It’s that stewing in the helplessness of being bound by the endless hunt for vice where the film will probably frustrate those trying to find meaning in a world where drunk teenage girls are easy prey for horny guys at a resort. After such an event, all you have are those who will stand by you in tough times. For some, that’ll be enough, but it’s a simplification that makes this bittersweet ending more bitter than sweet.